There is a lot to report at the moment – The Spicks and Specktacular hits the road again tomorrow for two weeks, A Very Specky Christmas TV special has been filmed, was great, and airs on Sunday Dec 21, and my DVD is still in stores.
However, all of these things take a back seat this week to the tragic death of a friend of mine by the name of Richard Marsland. You may have heard him on radio co-hosting Triple M Breakfast with Pete and Myf, or working alongside Tony Martin on GET THIS, or even from the good old days at SAFM Adelaide.
Richard was undoubtedly one of the nicest, most talented and well-repected people I have ever met. From the days of listening to him on the overnight shift at SAFM, to working with him in the studio, to meeting up with him again in Melbourne, I was always really happy to see him, and enjoyed listening to what he had to say on air and off. He had a true comedy mind, and I was always a little in awe of what he produced.
The only drawback to Richard’s personality was that he seemed to find it hard to believe the great things people had to say about him. I wonder if he knew, really knew, how loved he was.
This brings me to a point. It is important for people, especially men, to let someone know when they are having a tough time in life. As someone put it to me the other night “Guys need to know it’s ok to say to a friend ‘Mate, I’m in a bit of trouble here’ ”
I replied that those words should be the basis of a marketing campaign for Beyond Blue, or Lifeline, or any number of crisis centres. Maybe we shouldn’t even call them crisis centres, or support lines. Maybe if we called them “Repair Centres”, or “Workshops” or even “Sheds” more blokes would visit them. Anywhere they could say to a mate “I’m in a bit of trouble here”
I will miss Richard, and do already, and took great pleasure listening to his sketches on Triple M this morning. I’ll always wish we had caught up for that beer, that we had sat down and talked about comedy til the cows came home, and that I could tell him again and again how much his comedy made me laugh. Most of all, I wish I could have heard what he would have done next. Cos I know it would have been great.
My thought are with his family, but also with all the friends of Richard, a lot of whom are my friends as well, that loved him and are devastated that he left us.
The only thing we can do is learn from his time here – and for the moment the lesson is this: if you’re in trouble, tell someone. Preferably a professional. Don’t be afraid to tell a friend how you feel, or even better, tell someone who knows how to deal with it and does so on a daily basis. Don’t let things go unsaid, because sometimes you just never know how much people really love you, even if you don’t see it.
That’s all for now, I hope my next blog comes from happier circumstances.
“Gentle shoulder charge, love you mate”